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A: Who do you like and Why?

My girlfriend. (Kind of a "duh" question, but this survey doesn't pre-suppose a relationship, so... whatev?) Because she is intelligent, funny, adorable, beautiful, and genuine in a way that most people just don't have the courage and the fortitude to be. Including me sometimes... but she makes it look easy, and that's impressive to me. Plus she puts up with me and my crazy.

B: Have you ever been in love? If yes, how many times, and how do you know it was love?

I distinguish between being in love and falling in love. When you're in love, all that matters is the other person's happiness. As in, if you can make them smile it makes your week, and you can't wait to think of a way to do it again. You can only tell if you've been in it a long time. Falling is when you have that, but you have an overpowering desire for them not just to be happy but be happy with you... and you don't know that until, for whatever reason, it can't/doesn't work out that way, and you think your life is over. I've been once and fallen twice.

C: Longest relationship you've ever been in, and why did it end?
Four months. We wanted different things out of the relationship.

D: Have you ever changed for someone, if yes, how?

Been in a situation where I've wanted to, desperately? Yes. Ever actually managed it? No. And it's taken me a while to realize that's not always such a bad thing.

E: Pretend I'm you ex, what do you want to say to me?

I wish I could have been braver, both during the relationship and after it was over... but I'm happy now, and I realize that what happened was for the best.

F: Have you ever been cheated on?

Not as far as I know.

G: Have you ever cheated?

I couldn't even contemplate it. Seriously. When I'm in a relationship, that person has my full attention.

H: Would you date someone who's know for cheating, if yes why?

No. That behavior is indicative of something deeper, something few people ever actually correct.

I: What's the most important part of a relationship?

Being there for each other. Not always for validation--if they love you, they'll tell you when they think you're off base--but definitely for support.

J: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

Serious relationships. Not in a OMG THIS IS FOR LIFE every single time way; I just find it difficult to go into a relationship with the mindset of "this is fun but temporary" instead of "we're ideally going to be together unless/until something serious breaks between us." It's old-fashioned, but it's the way my brain works.

K: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"?

Everyone needs time to themselves now and then. If you have one of those times and you're honest about it, it shouldn't hurt the relationship; "break" means "temporary." But as far as taking "breaks" from fidelity... no.

L: How many people have you ever hooked up with?

M: What's one thing you regret saying or not saying, doing or not doing in a previous relationship?

Not trusting the other person to accept the not-normal part of me.

N: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?

Um, when they're adults?

O: Do you believe in the phrase, "Age is just a number?" Why or why not?

Yes. I've seen people with an eleven-year age difference make it work, perfectly happy. Literally.

P: What about "Love at first sight"? Why or why not?

No. You can be hugely attracted at first sight, and greatly fascinated at first conversation, but you don't get to the "love" bit til you know a person.

Q: Turn on's?

Confidence, intelligence, sense of humor.

R: Turn off's?

Bigotry, rudeness, ignorance.

S: What do you consider a deal breaker?


T: How do you know it's time to end a relationship?

When it causes you as much, or more, distress as happiness. "But when it's good, it's good" is never a solid justification for anything that makes you feel awful.

U: Are you currently in a relationship? If yes, for how long? If no, how long have you been single?

Yes. Since November.

V: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?

Yes. Have done. I think it's the fair and decent thing to do, and you don't lose as much.

W: Do you think people should date their friends?

Absolutely. You know your friends better and it's more likely to be successful.

X: How many relationships have you had?

Longer than two weeks? Three.

Y: Do you think love can last forever?

Not the falling kind. Caring more about someone else than yourself? Sure.

Z: Do you believe love can conquer all things?

It can, but it's not always for the best when it does. Again, that's the difference between falling and just being.

1: Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?

No. I don't like letting other people tell me what to do in life.

2: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?

Trust the other person. If you can't do that, you don't need to be in the relationship at this stage.

3: Do you think long distance relationships can work? Why or why not?

Obviously. In one now. Because we talk every day, and probably have more contact in that sense than I do with people who are just friends who live in this area. Sometimes you miss the physicality, but it's not total separation.

4: What do you notice first about another person?

Their demeanor. And their eyes, but I think that's kind of universal.

5: Do gay, lesbians, bisexuals or transgender people bother you?

Nope. Made my peace with it a while back, and am all the happier for it.
Well, I haven't got OFFICIAL approval for Sukoshi Con but I did get an " it shouldn't be a problem" so I'm taking it as a yes for now. I got a trench and tie for Castiel yesterday, and hopefully I snag the wig on ebay after work.

I fould a prop maker online who does angel blades on commission, and I was going to wait and save my money, but if I remember right I have a kiddy sword in the garage somewhere... What I'm probably going to end up doing is bashing the hand guard off with a hammer and sealing the edges with duct tape so I can hold it without cutting myself, and painting the hilt silver.

The trench fits all right in the shoulders, but if the armholes prove too cavernous I may have to take it to the tailor's. Hope not though.


*bangs head against wall*

I'm learning a few things about fabric choices during this dollfie fashion spree. If Peep had the slightest desire to learn to speak he'd probably be screeching "Oh my GOD, Larten, your shirt---! What the fuck!?!" from this day forward. Because I have done about sixteen times today. The fabric for my first shirt shows EVERY LITTLE MISTAKE because when you screw up and take the stitches out, it leaves pinholes you could drive a truck through. I guess I'm lucky I bought so much extra... I have to cut out the entire back again.

Lesson effing learned. Augh.
Yeah, so I got a third dollfie at A-kon and just ordered a fourth. And am planning on a fifth, which due to a special sale would come with a free sixth.

How did this happen???


I was originally just getting into this as a money-making venture. I wasn't going to collect. I collect watches and that's expensive enough. But the seductive thing about dollfie collecting is that you can put them on layaway. Unlike watches--if you win a watch on eBay, you have to pay in full, right that bloody second. With dollfies you can pay for a $600 work of art a hundred bucks at a time, over 6 months. It takes like 90% off the normal limits of what's affordable.

And they really are like fucking potato chips.Collapse )

Doctor Who is next on the costume-making itinerary, starting with a series of Romanas for my SD girl. Anybody know of any Whovian doll people, send them to me and I'll start compiling a list of requests?

Coming soon

Can't spend much time on this now as I'm scrambling to finish a 14-page overview, but David Cordingly continues to astound me with his ... I can only call it idiocy. And poor judgment. It reminds me of Ambrose.

That's right. I just compared him to Stephen Ambrose.

It's a horrible insult, and I don't throw the A-word around lightly. But he's earned it. I'll break it down here later.

For now

"As all women know and some men can never understand, the most interesting heroes of literature and of history have been flawed characters. The British nation admired and honored the Duke of Wellington, but when news of Lord Nelson's death at Trafalgar reached London, men and women wept in the streets. Yet Nelson was a vain, impetuous, and diminutive figure who abandoned his wife and embarked on a passionate and ill-advised affair with the voluptuous Lady Hamilton."
- David Cordingly, Under the Black Flag: The Romance and the Reality of Life Among the Pirates


Cut for ragey refutationCollapse )

*It's killing me to do this without expletives. But that's the point of Lent.

Jingle Bells, Batman Smells...

Peepers laid an egg.

Given that he's an only bird and a male, we're not quite sure how he managed it. But it was there when I cleaned his cage this morning.

Pictures when I figure out how to make the camera work.


Spring training starts tomorrow.

BASEBALL!Collapse )

Past ==> Present ==> Future

I've been thinking lately about food, and diet. In class, we were talking about agriculture, labor activism and boycotts, how difficult it is to effectively boycott an everyday commodity when the merchant company has a borderline monopoly on importing and exporting said commodity. The conversation moved on to the difficulties of making any unconventional modification to one's diet (excluding the omnipresent high-fructose corn syrup, for one) and Karen remarked "Try having high blood pressure and trying to keep salt out." And I thought Oh, crap--salt!

I remember when my grandfather's hypertension got really bad in the last two years of his life, his list of safe foods shrank to an insanely small amount. In the food-rich combined Sicilian and Cajun culture, it was really hard. Now that I've developed it myself, been living with it for five years (possibly due to heredity, possibly a side effect of a drug; my money's on both) I'm starting to realize that maybe I ought to be thinking about this kind of thing. I mean, I don't want to get into a situation where I'm 40 and can't eat anything.

I need to get sea salt next time I'm at the grocery store. still salt, but low sodium. I don't cook at home all that often, but I might as well start making this sort of adjustment now.

Calm... I'm calm. I promise.

So, The Hot Stove was looking at the teams on Mike's options list. Part of me wants him to go to the Angels so he can kick our asses all year and lead them to the World Series. But the part of me that loves our guys too (which is most of me) really just wants him to go to the National League. At least they can't screw him over, there's no DH in the NL. (I think they're onto something making their pitchers keep their batting skills up, but that's a story for another day.)

I hope he's not mad enough to go to the Yankees if they offer. He's a Ballplayer, not Yankee material. I'll cry if he ends up in New York.

They had a theory on why Jon Daniels decided to bust out with this whole shoot-self-in-foot move; they figure it's that Michael's fixing to turn 35, and Daniels is dumb enough to make decisions based on arbitrary numbers and a shifting age prejudice rather than actual production. That could be right. My theory's still that Jon Daniels is a dick.

Also: Will Work for Nuts? Is AMAZING. Everyone should watch it. Everyone.


Romana w/ hat
Margaret Who?

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